Mommy’s Freakum Dress

Gaining sixty plus pregnancy pounds really took a toll on my self esteem. Ironically it didn’t take a toll on my sex life…not even a little bit lol. There’s a theory that sex is better when you’re pregnant. Now, I can’t really confirm or deny that supposition because sex with my fiancé is always great. But a lot of women experience trouble with their sex life during pregnancy because either they don’t feel sexy or because their mates start acting differently.

I think this is an important topic to touch on as a fellow mother. The critical element in this situation depends on how you feel physically, mentally and emotionally. I’m not going to be a hypocrite and advise you to have the healthiest diet possible during pregnancy because my diet, while I was pregnant, consisted primarily of double cheeseburgers with ketchup and cheese only and red velvet cupcakes. But, what I will say is, do what works for you. If you have the will power to maintain a healthy diet during pregnancy, then by all means you go girl! For the moms-to-be who are more like me, I want to let you know not to get down on yourself. Don’t think that the woman you were and the shape you had prior to pregnancy is gone forever. It’s also not only about being fit and fine for your man. It’s about being healthy, both mentally, emotionally and physically for yourself and more importantly for your baby.

The most important thing is to go at your own pace in your quest to reclaim your pre-baby body. What works for another mommy may not work for you. I started with really small steps towards getting my body and mind back to where I needed it to be. Once you gain your self esteem back and you have finally have the inevitable “Aw shit, I ain’t lost it” epiphany, I want you to go in the back of your closet and pull out that dress from your first date, put it on and tell your man, “I’m going out tonight.. You can stay home with the baby.”